Unique Wine Glasses

Tajirah glasses are unique wine glasses. The Tajirah glass is individually hand-painted and then decorated with rhinestones. The unique rhinestone design of the Tajirah glass is not available anywhere else.

As fans of the movie “Breakfast at Tiffany’s”, we like everything Chanel, Audrey Hepburn and Tiffany blue.  Our most recent choice of color is Tiffany blue, but of course the Tajirah glass is available in many colors.

These uniquely decorated wine glasses are “Bling Couture” and  can be used for any special occasion such as birthdays, holidays, girls night out and weddings.

Tajirah glass in tiffany blue

These unique wine glasses can be ordered by going to the products page.

black velvet cake

black velvet cake 

Tajirah's Black Velvet

Don’t let the picture fool you.













  • 3 cups of flour
  • 3 teaspoons of cocoa powder
  • 3 teaspoons of baking powder
  • ½ teaspoon of salt
  • 1 cup of butter, softened
  • ½ cup of canola oil
  • 2 cups of sugar
  • 4 eggs
  • 1 cup of buttermilk
  • 2 ounces black food coloring
  • 1 ½ teaspoons of vanilla
  • 2(8 ounce) packages of cream cheese, softened
  • 6 tablespoons of butter, softened
  • 1 1/2 teaspoons of vanilla
  • 1 pint of whipping cream
  • 2 lbs of confectioners sugar



  1.  preheat oven to 350 degrees F. prepare 2 (9 inch) round cake pans
  2.  sift together flour, cocoa, baking powder and salt; set aside
  3.  cream together butter, oil and sugar until fluffy.
  4.  beat in eggs one at a time
  5.  alternately add flour mixture and buttermilk to butter egg and sugar.
  6.  beat in food color and flavor
  7.  spread in pans evenly and bake for 25-30 minutes or until wooden toothpick inserted in center comes out clean
  8.  cool on racks 
Tajirah's Black Velvet Cake

frosting the black velvet cake with a layer of cream cheese frosting on the sides













  1.  in bowl cream together cream cheese and butter
  2.  beat in confectioners sugar until fluffy
  3.  beat in vanilla
  4.  in another bowl pour whipping cream into a cold bowl and beat until thickened
  5.  add confectioners sugar (amount depends on how sweet you want it) and add a little vanilla for some flavor
  6. continue whipping until soft peaks are formed

 frost the layers and spread thin coat of cream cheese frosting over sides.

mix the whipped cream and cream cheese frosting together and spread on top and sides of cake


I made this for my daughter’s birthdays. One wanted a Red Velvet cake and the other wanted an Oreo cake. I made them both happy, but only one wanted to show her smile of joy after eating her cake.

Tajirah's Black Velvet Cake

Black velvet cake teeth




A Simple Technique For Single Women To Meet Men

I just recently had an “aha” moment. I found a very simple, easy way for women to meet men.

*Disclaimer: I am happily married and am not looking to meet anyone of the opposite sex.

I can almost guarantee this will work IF my single friends or other single women will try it. It is just so simple.  The great thing about this technique is it involves something that single women are probably already doing.

All my single ladies…All my single ladies…

This is so exciting…..

Here it is……

First you have to run out of a necessity such as toilet paper, toothpaste, dish soap or a necessary item that you just cannot make it through the day without. You have to realize you don’t have it at the last minute, like right before you have to use it. It has to be at an inconvenient time when you have to run out of the house totally focused on the item and not your appearance.

Example: The other day during my natural hair wash day, I remembered after twisting my hair  in about 10 fat, large Whoopi Goldberg, Color Purple twists so my hair could dry,  that I was out of vitamins (my necessity, because I am old). I realized the Health Food Store would be closing in 20 minutes. I have too much dignity and home training to leave the house in the pajamas I had on. So, I threw on whatever was convenient along with the baseball cap to cover my puffy twists. I was focused on the vitamins needed for my morning schedule and catching the store before it closed. After finding a close parking space, I opened the door, stepped out of my car and realized my pajamas actually would have looked better than what I had on.


Black and white print leggings (very loud print), a workout t-shirt that did not cover my jiggly butt and flip-flops with ashy feet. Luckily, my sunglasses were in the car. I quickly put them on thinking I can hide my whole body behind them. Once my sunglasses were on, I suddenly had the confidence to walk, I mean strut into the store like I had dressed to meet the president and the Mrs.

Once in the store, I could not find my vitamins. I walk up and down the aisles definitely not wanting to ask for help because I don’t remember if I had brushed my teeth or not. So Mr. Concerned About His Health Looking Like A Personal Trainer offered to assist me. I mumbled something to the effect that I was okay, to avoid any and all conversation. After fleeing to another aisle I run into Mr. I Know This Store Like The Back of My Hand who also offered to assist me. Thank God, I  was standing in front of what I needed. I thanked Mr. I KTSLT bOMH and quickly picked up my vitamins and left the store.

What I thought about was how many times this has happened to me. So I am assuming it has happened to women all the time. The same women who constantly say they cannot find men. When you are NOT trying to attract men with your appearance is when you will attract them. You are more approachable and real when your focus is not on finding a man. What happens when are not trying to be attractive? Someone finds you attractive.

This technique has to be spontaneous. You cant run out of toilet paper and toothpaste daily. When you run out of your necessity and run to the store at the last minute and Mr. I can help you attempts to help, don’t go into self conscious mode and try to hide, engage this man in conversation (unless you have run out of toothpaste). You may just meet your future partner while already looking like the day after.

Tell me what you think or if this technique helps you…..


Is Your CoWorker a Debbie Downer or a Schleprock?

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Does it seem like you work with a Debbie Downer and/or a Schleprock? Is that coworker always waiting to greet you?

When they are the first person I see, I do everything I can to avoid them. Otherwise before the day starts, they will go on and on about the last incident they had with so and so and why so and so is such a so and so and then they will start telling you how valuable they are to the company. Their value of course rivals that of the CEO and blah, blah, blah.

Wondering why your Debbie Downer/Schleprock coworker picks you?

One reason is that your parents taught you that if you can’t say something good about a person don’t say anything at all. So coworker Debbie Downer and coworker Schleprock take your silence at work as undivided attention to their rantings. You may totally agree that your other coworkers are quite strange and trifling, but if you show the slightest indication, you can be certain that your time will be totally monopolized.

My coworker Debbie Downer came to me on a Friday at 5pm, as I was leaving for my two days of freedom,  followed me into the restroom and then to my car. I think I had my first panic attack because I felt myself hyperventilating. I had no choice, but to make up some story (a pretty good one too) to get away.  Didn’t her parents teach her consideration of others time? Of course not!  This caused me to go home feeling agitated. By the time I reached home, I had morphed into Debbie Downer. My husband told me, in his matter-of-fact way, that whatever happens at my job needs to stay at my job. He also stated that I shouldn’t have any problem with how my company is run, unless I stop getting a paycheck. I had to agree. In other words he was saying, don’t bring that mess (my husband would use the expletive starting with “sh”) in our house.

 I know that my place of employment is not my life and when I leave at 5pm I will be doing something that I enjoy. Not being there for starters. I also envision myself on a beach everyday reading or in a kitchen trying new recipes (without the clean up of course) rather than being at my place of employment. I do have things to look forward to.

If you are a Debbie Downer or a Schleprock of course you are not going to admit it, so encourage your coworker who you think is a Debbie Downer or Schleprock to look at their job simply as a means to an end and find a way to do something enjoyable. Encourage your coworker to look forward to leaving work everyday to do their enjoyable activity. Drinking heavily and ranting may be enjoyable, but they are not very healthy activities. The company will still run whether we are there or not. For 8 hours of our paid time,  however unprofessional, trifling and/or asinine way our employers choose to run their companies, it is their business. You have two options, run your own business or just deal with your employers. If you choose the second option, please, please, please leave your quiet, seemingly happy contented coworkers to their own daydreams of the lying on a beach far away from you.



Ackee and Saltfish Recipe for cousin Debbie

ackee saltfish

Ackee and Saltfish served with boiled green bananas and fried dumplings

2 cans of Grace Ackee

1 lb of boneless salted codfish – not sure of the brand but it is wild caught

1 scotch bonnet or if not available 1 habanero pepper*

olive oil

1 sprig of fresh thyme

black pepper

1 large tomato chopped

1 onion chopped

3 or 4 scallions chopped

canola oil to fry dumplings


Disclaimer 1:

 I am not Jamaican. Therefore it may not be “authentic”, but this is how I make and serve Ackee and Saltfish for my JAmerican husband and my children.

Disclaimer 2:

I believe this will serve at least 6 people, but I don’t know because my husband and son do not stop eating until it is gone.


Lets get started….

First I soak the boneless salted codfish overnight. Needless to say, this is usually a weekend dish and not a very often weekend dish.

After soaking the codfish,  I boil the fish at least 30 minutes or until it becomes flaky. I don’t like it when it is too chewy, but I do like some of the salt to remain with the fish.

While the fish is boiling, I wash the green bananas with baking soda and scrub. Then I cut the tops and bottoms off the bananas and cut a small incision down the length.

I boil the bananas for 20 mins. Green bananas do not taste like yellow bananas, but have more of a starchy, potatoey (not really a word) taste.

While the bananas and the fish are cooking I make the dough for the dumplings.

2 cups of flour

2 tsp baking powder

1/2 tsp salt

1 cup warm milk

After combining ingredients, knead and let rest for 15 mins

Green bananas should be done, remove from heat and drain.

Back to the ackee and saltfish…..

Place the ackee in a colander and if you see any black or brown specs remove them.

Drain the fish by pouring the fish water over the ackee into the colander. Flake the pieces of fish and try not to handle the ackee too much to avoid it becoming mushy.

In a large enough pan with lid, heat at least 1/2 cup of olive oil, more if needed.

Add the onions and sauté until wilted. Add the fish and ackee and pepper to taste, the sprig of thyme, tomatoes and a small slice of the scotch bonnet or habanero pepper* stir just to combine. Reduce heat and cover.

Back to the dumplings…

Heat canola oil to fry the dumplings. Form a log with the dough and cut in pieces. Drop in hot oil and watch them expand. Cook until brown on all sides. Remove and place on paper towel to drain.

You should be able to handle the bananas. Peel them.

Serve your ackee and saltfish with the bananas and the dumplings.

*The last time I used the habanero pepper I rubbed my eye after handling it  and thought my eye would burn out of its socket. Cucumber was the only thing that removed the burning. Please be careful when handling the peppers.


Let me know how your ackee and saltfish turns out.