The Best Mother’s Day Gift Ever


My mom loves the beach. As far back as I can remember we have always spent time at the beach. Mainly, because we have always lived near a large body of water. Mommy has always found time to visit the beach. Yes, my sisters and I call our mother, “Mommy”.  A few years ago, my sisters and I started a tradition of going to the beach every Mother’s Day.  Only the women and girls are allowed to attend. Our group now includes our daughters, nieces and granddaughters. If female members of our family or close friends are in town, they are invited to come. Every year our outing gets better as we look forward to the time spent with mom. 

We pack fruit,  healthy treats and of course some type of sweet treat. We stop by the local ice-cream shop and have cones, cups and gelatos.

Our beach bags reflect our love of reading. We always end up reading not the books we brought, but each others books. Everyone else’s book just seems a little more interesting than our own.

I am currently reading the No. 1 Ladies’ Detective Agency Series by Alexander McCall Smith. I read the first book in paperback. For Christmas my children gave me a Kindle, so I have been downloading the other books in the series. I am sure my mom will end up with my Kindle instead of reading her own hardcover book. She read the first book in the series in paperback and has been using my Kindle to keep up. 

Gift Idea #1 – The next 3 books in the No. 1 Ladies’ Detective Agency Series for mom.

We exchange cards and gifts. I’ve noticed that my daughter has already loaded up on the cards. I fell in love with this round Boho beach blanket.

B018QQGXU0Gift Idea #2 – Beach Blanket for sister, but I will probably keep it for myself.

We have candid conversations about our relationships, family, past and current events. The afternoon ends with hugs and kisses and wishing our time together at the beach could last just a little bit longer. Spending time with mom is the best Mother’s Day Gift any mom will cherish. Life is not promised  and it is too short to not take time to spend with the one person who will always love you unconditionally. I thank God for blessing me with a mother who loves spending time with her family a tad bit more than she loves the beach. 

10 Names We Use to Describe Natural Black Hair

When I was growing up, I wanted my hair to be the perfect dome shape like the Jacksons (with the exception of Tito and Marlon) and Pam Grier (I wanted to look like Pam Grier).

        Jackson 5        Pam Grier                      

Unfortunately, it would flop on the top and it would end up looking like “Hey Arnold”.  Arnold

As I grew older and even now I want the wild natural hair look of Chaka Khan and Diana Ross. chaka khan diana ross

However, my hair is still flopping in the middle and I’ve come to realize that my hair may never look like Chaka Khan’s or Diana Ross’s. I have also come to realize that with the popularity of natural hair, there are so many names for it. I remember calling natural hair “Natural” or better yet “Natruh” because it was chemical free and non-straightened. Today with the popularity of natural hair, people are using all kind of names to describe it. Here are my top ten names for natural hair (in alphabetical order) and my thought on what it means.

1. Afro

According to Oxford dictionary – 1. a thick hairstyle with very tight curls that sticks out all around the head, like the natural hair of some black people.

I think this is a term that was given to African hair by people other than black people. I do remember wearing my hair out one time and a classmate said they wished they could get their hair in an “Afro”. We of course had adopted and shortened the term to ” fro” as in “I don’t think your hair will go into a fro!”

2. Bad/Good

Many Black people (I might want to say at least 80-90%) give hair human characteristics of being Bad or Good. I didn’t know hair was bad or good until I went to an all black school in Chicago and was told I had Bad hair. That was after I was schooled on dark skin and light skin as well (a whole nutha subject). I took it to mean that Bad hair is a tighter curl and Good hair is a looser curl. Recently I was told I had Good hair (wth?), I think because of the length (does it ever end???).

3. Coily

Sounds like twisted wires which can define some natural black hair. Actually it would be the best description for my moms hair. With one strand you could probably string some beads for a necklace. However, I think this is just a made up term to describe black hair.

4. Curly Curly Sue

The majority of people in the world have some curl to their hair. So in describing black hair, curly doesn’t sit right with me. Black hair comes in a multitude of textures just like our skin tone comes in a multitude of shades. Therefore curly is just way too broad a term for describing Black hair.


I can’t figure this out yet.

6. Kinky

I thought kinky had to do with sexual behavior. When it comes to describing Black hair,  I think it has to do with your hair if the strand is like in a Z pattern. Yup, that sounds good.

7. Nappy Naturals be like

Oh boy here we go….. Nappy is a term that Black people can use, but no one else can. Some would say it is a derogatory term to describe black hair.  The term Nappy I assume comes from hair having the texture of  Berber carpet. Personally, there is a lot that can be done with this type of hair. If people would realize why we have hair in the first place then they would realize that this type of hair is the best for protecting our scalp.   

8. Natural

This is my favorite term used to describe Black hair. To me it means hair in it’s natural state, no chemicals, no heat straightening, just what you were born with. If you love yourself which I hope you do, then you will love your “Natruh” hair.

9. Textured

Assuming our hair was made of material fibers or flooring.

10. Wooly Sheeps wool

Some Black people describe their hair like sheep’s wool. They may choose to relate their hair to how Jesus’s hair was described like lambs wool.  I will leave this one alone.

Of course I prefer the term “Natural” hair to describe my hair like the three beautiful sisters from My Natural Sistas.  My Natural Sistas


What do you prefer? Does it really even matter?

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My Daughter’s Godmother

Today I wrote this simple text to my daughter’s godmother: 

“I miss you”

Why did I write that?

Well it goes a little something like this……

I met my daughter’s godmother when I was 12 years old. We both started a new school the same year. Soon after meeting me, she claimed me as her best friend. Wow! I was a twelve year old silly, daydreaming idealist and she was more of a twelve year old serious realist. Although she was way more serious than myself, I knew how to bring the silly out of her. 


Flash forward 10 years….I am pregnant with my first child. There would be no other person who I would entrust my daughter’s raising if something were to happen to me. Thus she became my daughter’s Godmother. For the next 20+ years she would be the best Godmother anyone could ever ask for. Where I would not keep in touch, she took her role serious and always kept in touch with my daughter. 

Now my daughter is about to become a mom to a baby girl. My friend is almost as excited to become a Grand Godmother as I a Grandmother. Her husband said there is no such word as a Grand Godmother….yeah buddy there is and your wife made up her name as she is so great at doing. In all this excitement, my friend traveled from Illinois to Florida to attend my daughter’s baby shower. It was supposed to be a surprise, but my daughter figured it out. 

The last time I spent time with my friend was when her daughter was born and that was around 13 years ago. So you would think we would spend time catching up and reminiscing about our lives, but we didn’t.  It was weird but, when we got together, the years of time apart just melted away. It was very comforting just being in each other’s presence. So much has changed in our lives, but yet we were still the same when we were together. She stayed less than 48 hours.

It has been approximately 10 days, so today I sent her the text letting her know that I missed her. For the short period of time, I became the same 12 year old silly idealist that I truly am and she was the same 12 year old silly realist. I found that I had missed that part of myself and she was the one to bring it out. 


Because I’m Happy…sorry if you’re not

Okay Happy People, I have come to the conclusion that you have a special gift from God. Why? Because The world is filled with our opposites- Unhappy People. People were created with the right to choose and unhappy people choose to be Unhappy. Hard to comprehend? Get this, unhappy people expect that by being around you, your happy spirit will somehow permeate their spirit and change them into happy people.

Sorry unhappy people, but happiness comes from within.thCA5OUXR7

Unhappy people are like:

  • When you smile – they frown and sometimes ask you why are you so happy (really?! but I think its because smiling is prettier than frowning)thCA6ORKWD
  • When you laugh – they say you are loud and annoying (sorry for you, laughing louder)
  • When you display acts of kindness – they take it as acts of weakness (its called empathy, Vigo the master of Evil)thCAIO4QAY
  • When you give – they take (all of your hope in the human race)

Why are people so miserable and why do they gravitate to our light? Because we’re happy? Because opposites attract? I don’t know and can’t dwell on it. I am too busy trying to stay true to my happiness. It takes strength, willpower and determination to remain a happy person. Remember if misery loves company then happiness loves company too. So find happy friends, family members and associates that when together it is a joyous occasion. Its easy to find happy people, just follow the smiles, giggles and random outbursts of laughing (not the crazy laughing, that’s a different topic).



What do you do to remain happy when you are surrounded by unhappy people? Leave a comment!

Are You Classy?

Advice columnist, Ann Lander’s definition of class is timeless. She states, “If you have class you’ve got it made. If you don’t have class, no matter what else you have, it doesn’t make any difference.”

Audrey Hepburn class

Ask yourself the following eight questions to find out if you are classy.

  1. Are you confident?
  2. Do you have a sense of humor?
  3. Do you make excuses or justify your faults?
  4. Do you follow the golden rule – do to others what you would have them do to you?
  5. Do you think your lack of money excludes you from having class?
  6. Do you act the same way around everyone you come in contact with?
  7. Does it make you feel better by comparing yourself with others?
  8. Do you feel comfortable around all people without regard to race, culture or social status?
If you answered YES to 1, 2, 4, 6,8 and NO to 3, 5,7, then Congratulations! YOU ARE CLASSY!
If you answered differently, then you know what you need to work on.